From your reading, from American films and TV and from talking with Americans in your country, you have probably formed some idea of life in the United States. Some of what you have seen and heard is true; some of it is probably distorted or just plain fiction. To help you distinguish fantasy from fact, we include several common “mythical” statements about life in the United States, followed by our view of the reality behind the myths. Remember though, that each person’s experience is different, and part of the value of your experience abroad will be your own discovery of America and Americans

MYTH: Life is easy in the United States

REALITY: While it is true that the material standard of living in the United States is high, this has not resulted in a leisurely pace of life. Visitors to the United States are often surprised at how hard most Americans work, at their long work hours and short vacations, and at the fast pace of American life in general. Even leisure time is often devoted to activities such as sports, exercise, or other hobbies that involve intense activity and effort. Many Americans are uncomfortable with true leisure and feel guilty about doing nothing or spending long periods of time relaxing or talking with friends

MYTH: America is “the land of the free” so I can do whatever I want there

REALITY: Individual freedom is an important American value, but newcomers may find themselves overwhelmed by the legal and bureaucratic restrictions on their activities and confused by the complexities of social interaction.

Throughout their 300-year history, Americans have been trying to balance the freedom of the individual with the well being of society, sometimes with odd results. Often the right of a majority to freedom from something wins out, as in anti-smoking laws, where the right of non-smokers to be free overrides the right of smokers to smoke. International students are often shocked by the number of rules governing their behaviour as foreigners, as students, as motorists, as bicyclists – any of the roles they may assume during their stay in the United States.

The rules of social behaviour in the United States can be equally confusing. There is a strong dose of Puritanism mixed in with generally laissez-faire American attitude, which makes it difficult to predict how people will behave or react to others’ which means that values may differ widely from one social group to another and from one individual to another. Sometimes it may seem that no rules apply and that “anything goes”, but a newcomer should be wary of making assumptions about what is acceptable, especially in the area of sexual relations.

MYTH: Americans are racist/ Americans are tolerant.

REALITY: the contradictory stereotypes exist side by side, and both have elements of truth. In general you need not fear that you will encounter overt racism in the United States, particularly within the university or college community.

In regions where there are many immigrants you may find yourself blending in suffering more from indifference than intolerance. In other, more isolated and homogeneous areas, you may be an object of curiosity, noticed and welcomed, but perhaps not always understood. Because of America’s relative geographical isolation, many Americans are quite ignorant about the rest of the world and may be rather chauvinistic (have a sense of national superiority). This can be irritating but you will find that hostility towards foreigners is rare.

Racial and ethnic prejudice in unfortunately a reality in the United States and occasionally a foreign student experiences hostility, even violence, of this nature. It would be wise to be aware of the tensions that may exist in the communities you visit in the united States, but do not fear that this will be a common or frequent problem. Pay attention to the news, listen to the advice of friends, and perhaps take a class on race relations in the United States. This is a complex issue that reflects many of the paradoxes of American history.
Be aware also that you may have been influenced by racial stereotyping in American films. Visitors to the United States are sometimes surprised to find that the African-Americans they meet in the United States have nothing in common with the violent stereotype so often projected in the movies.

MYTH: The United States has a classless society.

REALITY: Although the United States does not have a history or tradition of rigidly defined social classes, distinctions among economic classes in the United States result in de facto social stratification. Although the majority of Americans can be considered to belong to the middle class, there is a small, wealthy upper class and a growing underclass. Still, the American ideal of equal educational opportunity and the belief that hard work and ability should be rewarded make for a society in which upward mobility is still common.

MYTH: Americans are rude and loud

REALITY: This is the image of the “ugly American” who, when abroad, demands in loud English to be understood. Although you may find examples of this stereotype on your campus, they will probably be few. It is true that Americans are often less inhibited socially than people from some other cultures. It is equally true that directness, or saying what one thinks, is acceptable behaviour. Americans value honesty and frankness. They are generally not embarrassed or angered by being told they are wrong, as long as the criticism is stated in a friendly and respectful way. They would generally prefer an honest argument or refusal to polite but insincere agreement.

The definition of “rudeness” varies widely from one culture to another. Do not jump to hasty conclusions about the intention behind someone’s words or behaviour that may seem very rude to you. Someone who tells you that you have done something wrong, including your professor, is probably trying to help you, not embarrass or hurt you.

MYTH: All Americans are rich and drive fast cars.

REALITY: In the United States, as in any country, there is a wide spectrum of economic status. You may be surprised to find American students at your university who come from very modest means and who struggle daily with money issues. Many American students go deeply into debt to obtain a university degree.

Some of the students you meet will, in fact, be rich, but you may find it hard at first to tell the rich from the poor. Even “poor” American students own a lot of things, from cars and computers to stereo and skis. Material goods are easy to acquire in a consumer-orientated, credit-driven society, but they do not necessarily indicate great wealth. A car may be a practical necessity for a student who works long hours after classes or who lives with his or her family in another town.

MYTH: American students are less prepared academically than students from my country, and I will not have to work very hard in class.

REALITY: Some American students are less prepared academically than others. While it may be tempting to think that you will not have much competition in the classroom, rest assured that there are many, many academically prepared and highly competitive American students. Do not underestimate the effect a change in language or a change in classroom style can have on your performance. In general, American students have a lot of experience in test taking and at expressing their opinions in class. You may come from an academic system that does not emphasize those skills.

MYTH: American professors are casual, sometimes even asking students to address them by their first names

REALITY: it is true that your American professors may ask you to address them by their first names, but this does not mean they do not expect your respect. The ways in which courtesy and respect are shown to an American professor may well differ from how they are expressed in your country. Respect in a U.S. classroom includes a willingness to participate in class debate and to ask questions when you do not understand something that has been said. Spend time watching how your American classmates interact with the professors. You will catch on quickly to the unique mix of formality and structure.

MYTH: American students use illegal drugs.

REALITY: Some do, most do not.